I met my husband when I was 16 years old, he was 18. We were impressionable immature kids. When we met he had this, what I called "stupid" and "embarrassing" spider walk like dance that he did. Everyone laughed, I as a teenage girl I was mortified......so I would tell him to stop embarrassing me.
Over the years he would do many more things to embarrass me, and I would slowly, unknowingly, put out his flame, his fun nature. I had no clue I was changing him. Over the last 24 years we have grown as individuals, as professionals, as parents, as partners. I have matured and with that came self-confidence. I am happy to say that there is pretty much nothing he can do that can embarrass me now. I embrace him as he is, I love him fully and unconditionally.
Last summer on one of our camping trips he danced for hours....on top of a rock.......to reggae music, entertaining all who passed our camp site. And all the while I cheered him on, laughed.......and felt utterly happy that he chose me....more than anything, I knew he had his flame back. Here's to letting your partner dance to the beat of their own drum. DMV